Training patience is not easy. However, if we play our part we will develop a more positive, awaken and confident attitude to deal with states of anxiety and set our sight towards wellbeing.
The mind, often, goes faster than life. One of the keys to putting a hold to that is practicing the power of patience, right there where feeding a positive vision while nurturing the waiting ability. Walk towards the custom of allowing anxiety, pressure, and worries go, to let things happen at their own pace and time.
To tolerate the waiting and the constant helplessness whenever we feel that not everything can be under our control.
We don’t know either if it is our impatience which brings anxiety, or if anxiety itself which makes us less tolerant to waiting. Regardless, what we do know, is that both dimensions make the perfect pair, ideal to unleash a very obvious state of stress and set our brains to overdrive, which comes with: insomnia, fatigue, attention disorder, dismay and, of course, unhappiness. An effective and basic strategy for the regulation of those states is learning to develop the power of patience. It is worth mentioning though that it is not easy. Because when a brain is used to those patterns of thought and agitated approaches, there is always resistance to the introduction of a more calmed, and most of all, optimistic vision. Let’s see how we can achieve that.
The power of patience for a better quality of life
Constant impatience brings to anxiety. This singular and often devastating couple creates not only a chain of physical disorders such as muscle pain, tachycardia or digestive issues. Impatience is just like the malware or virus installed in our mind that triggers the cognitive disorders mechanism.
It starts working as soon as we wake up. If coffee is not out of the coffee machine fast enough, if the elevator takes too long to arrive, if the subway is delayed by a minute, we assume it is going to be a bad day. If the project we had in mind does not materialize today, we are torn by frustration and despair.
The poison of hurry not only distorts our thoughts but blurs our mood and fills it with grays. If let out of control, anxiety will lead us by its lane inside a vehicle where life is totally meaningless. Therefore, patience is the ideal mechanism to re/take control.
Self-regulation as the key to achieving patience
Self-regulation is first of all self-control or better, the ability to successfully manage ourselves
- To react better in the face of pressure and surrounding events.
- The mechanisms to work in self-regulation imply learning to develop the following dimensions:
○ Emotional management.
○ Social skills.
Training the four roots of patience
The power of patience also implies clarifying some ideas regarding this dimension. It is common, for example, that:
- Patience is liberation. It is an emotionally liberating practice, which teaches us to wait, observe, and knowing when to act.
- Patience is compassion. This dimension implies being respectful to ourselves and not to reprimand ourselves for not being able to achieve certain things when we expected to. It means to take care of ourselves, to appreciate us, and learning to be our best allies in life.
- Patience as intuition towards movement and action. The person is not still, surrendered or isolated of their reality, quite the opposite. The power or patience allows us to save energy for action, it helps us awaken the intuition that knows to look to its surroundings to understand when it is better to be prudent and when is the best time to act.
- Confidence and optimism. The seeds of effective patience. Patience implies certain confidence in inertia: Things will come at the right time. It is pointless for our mind to go faster than life, if all that matters happens here and now.
In conclusion, let’s remember that patience is concentrated strength. It is the virtue of people who have learned to manage their emotions and thoughts to know that everything has their time, and sometimes, we insist in running when life tastes better in relaxing walks, with safe steps towards clear directions.